Without illusion, lying, indirect communication, passive aggression, manipulation, self-sacrifice, projection, the need to control or rescue, persecution, codependency, dominance and subordination, what is intimacy, anyway? What does it feel like, look like, act like? How do we begin to connect with one another at the level of our essential selves? What are the rules for intimacy between and among self-loving, self-aware beings? We have no models, no guidelines, no environment of support. We must create them.
--Kay Leigh Hagan, from Fugitive Information